Grandparents are more than just fun caretakers who let your kids watch extra TV and eat dessert before dinner. They can play an important role in raising children. In fact, one study found that kids with involved grandparents had fewer emotional problems or behavior issues. Ahead, learn more about the origin of Grandparents Day, why it’s important, and how you can honor the special grandparents in your lives as well.
What Is Grandparents Day?
Grandparents Day celebrates grandparents, great-grandparents, step-grandparents or any other adults in the older generation that play an important role in children’s lives. The idea for Grandparents Day came from Marian McQuade, an elder advocate. With 43 grandchildren of her own, McQuade knew a lot about what it meant to be a grandparent. McQuade wanted children to develop an appreciation for the older generation and learn to foster these relationships. She campaigned to put Grandparents Day on the calendar for eight years. Her first success was in 1973 when, due to her efforts, the day was observed in her home state of West Virginia. In 1978, McQuade’s continuous work paid off. President Jimmy Carter signed a proclamation stating that Grandparents Day should be observed each year.
When Is It Celebrated?
Grandparents Day is celebrated the Sunday after Labor Day in the United States. It is considered an observance, rather than a public holiday.
Why Is It Celebrated?
As the saying goes, it takes a village to raise a child, and grandparents often play a big part in that. Whether it’s making meals in those early days after their adult children become new parents, picking the grandkids up from school, or creating special memories at the holidays, there are many ways that grandparents can make a difference in their children’s and grandchildren’s lives. According to a study from the University of Oxford, children with involved grandparents were found to be more resilient. When these children faced life challenges such as their parents divorcing, they were better able to cope. The study found that grandparents were often more available to listen to children and help them work through problems, presumably because they were no longer working.
Family-Friendly Ways to Celebrate Grandparents’ Day
There are endless ways to show grandparents how much you appreciate them. Here are a few ideas to celebrate the grandparent figures in your life.
Adopt a Grandparent
There are many elderly folks out there who don’t have any grandchildren or extended family to visit them, which can result in loneliness or isolation. Both of these things have been linked with higher rates of dementia and earlier death. Consider visiting with an older adult in your community and keep them company. You can call up an assisted living center in your area if you don’t know any senior citizens personally. They will most likely welcome your presence.
Write an Appreciation Poem
We know how much we appreciate grandparents, but it never hurts to articulate it. Give your kids some sentence starters to help them write appreciation poems for their grandparents. Write the poems on a card or frame them. Here’s an example: The important thing about my grandparent is _____. They are _____. They like ______. They don’t like ______. They sometimes ______. They always _____. But the important thing about my grandparent is _____(same as first line).
Plan a Game Night
Playing board games as a family is a fun way for multiple generations to bond. Ideas for games include Pictionary, Uno, Monopoly, or Yahtzee. If you have young children, consider teaming them up with their grandparents if the game is difficult for them to play on their own. Pairing up with the grandkids provides another way to build inter-generational relationships.
Have the Kids Made Dinner
Grandparents will love a meal planned and prepared by their grandchildren. For this project, it’s best to give your kids as much responsibility as is appropriate for their age. Help them plan and design a paper menu to showcase what will be served. They can make a grocery list and pick the ingredients they need at the store. Kids of all ages can do some level of food prep. Older kids can even do most or all of the cooking, depending upon your judgment.
Do Activities Over FaceTime or Zoom
If it’s not possible to get together in person with the grandparents, consider hanging out over video chat. Being able to see how their grandchildren have grown and sharing smiles on screen almost always beats a phone call. Keep everyone engaged in the call by doing some kind of structured activity. Play a game like Pictionary, or prepare and eat dinner “together.”
Plan a Family Picnic
If the weather is nice enough, head to a park or beach with a basket of food to enjoy together. Spending time outdoors can be enjoyable for the older folks, who may like the fresh air and view, while the little ones can run and explore as needed. More agile grandparents can pick flowers or play with their grandchildren, while those less able to move around can set up a chair by the food. This gives them a chance to sit back and watch the kids play while also being able to interact when it’s time to chow down.
A Word From Verywell
Grandparents Day is a special day to honor older generations for their contributions to the children in your family. Kids benefit from having strong relationships with their grandparents. Grandparents benefit too because it can assuage their loneliness, making them happier and healthier. Some grandparents take on childcare duties or support parents in other ways. Celebrate the grandparents in your life by spending time with them or doing something nice for them, like cooking dinner. Consider also going to visit the elderly who are without family to keep them company on this day.
