Mutual Consent
If both an adopted adult (over 18 or, in some states, over 21) and a birthparent register in a state with a mutual consent registry (also known as a voluntary consent registry), identifying information will be provided to both. The following states offer mutual consent registries (some states with registries may be missing from this list):
Search and Consent/Confidential Intermediary
Some states provide a search and consent system, otherwise known as a confidential intermediary system. In this system, the adopted adult can request identifying information on the birthparents. The confidential intermediary locates the birthparents and asks for their permission to release identifying information. If they consent, the adopted adult is given their names. Some detractors have called this system “search and confront” because sometimes birthparents may be pressured into a rushed meeting by harried or inexperienced workers. States that offer confidential intermediary systems, include the following: Note that some states offer both a mutual consent registry and a confidential intermediary system.