An Age By Age Guide To Setting Discipline Consequences For Kids
Stress Consequences “I emphasize the use of consequences over punishment,” says Kristen Arquette, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Bellevue, WA. “They’re related concepts but with a different purpose.” According to Arquette, consequences help kids to learn from mistakes, choose better behaviors, and get along in the world. Punishments make children feel bad, or worse yet, suffer. “While punishments may ‘work,’ to interrupt a behavior short term, they have potentially negative long-term effects including causing children to feel bad about who they are (which also makes them more likely to act out again), as well as creating an adversarial relationship between parents and child....